It’s a no phone Sunday for me!
Do you have such days? Can you stay away from your smart device and for how long?
I did it last week and I’m determined to turn it to a tradition. Let me tell how, why and what…
It’s very hard for me to keep away from my laptop or smart phone, because most of my work as a graphic designer is on the computer anyway. With the social media work I do for myself and for my customers, I’m constantly attached to my smart phone when away from the computer. I’ve always been a bit of a tech geek, which makes me very vulnerable to such addiction.
I finally realized that this is taking too much out of my life. Being able to check my social media channels all the time, to reply to any comments and private messages from my blog, to check my email is a great advantage, but also makes me unable to switch off. I realized that I never stop working or keep in touch and this is not good for my social skills in the real life. I don’t spend enough time with the people around me and my attention is constantly distracted. It took me lots of time knowing it, until the point I finally made the decision that it is an actual addiction and I need to fight it.
Most probably all of you have a friend who can’t keep away from their phone when they’re out. You know that strange moment, when you’re both talking and laughing about something, until you see how the eyes of the person in front of you turn down to their phone and he or she is gone. You keep on talking fully aware that they are not listening. Well, I’ve seen this plenty of times and I don’t want to get there. I always though I’m in control, but am I really?!
So here is what I’m doing…
Just because it’s MY mobile phone, it doesn’t mean that it has to be connected to me 24/7 and that I need to reply to every beep it makes. It’s MY phone, so I’m going to decide when and how to use it. Do you remember the time when we didn’t have mobiles? If someone wanted to speak to you, they would call your home phone and if you don’t answer, you were obviously out of the house. Nowadays, when we want to talk to someone, we NEED to speak to them RIGHT NOW and we can’t wait!
So… I’m not using my phone on Sundays! I need time for my eyes to rest and time to spend with my partner and my friends.
I’m not having my phone on the dinner table. It’s disrespectful to the people I’m sitting there with and having a conversation. I don’t want to force anyone to do the same for me, but I’m hoping I’ll set a good example to the friends I meet too.
To all my friends: If you call me and I don’t answer, sorry guys – I’ll give you a call back later. I’m out of reach at the moment.
It felt really awkward when I left my phone at home for the first time. Last Sunday we went out shopping to a few markets and groceries, went out for a few drinks and shared our time only in between ourselves. I felt really strange at times, but happy and free as well. You know those little moment when your partner goes to the toilet and you just want to dig yourself in the phone – but I could’t do it, because my phone wasn’t there, so I had to watch the people around the bar and explore the world. Every time I sat in the car, I thought that I could check my emails or Facebook messages, but NO.
After awhile I really really liked it. I was alert about everything going on around me. When we finished a certain conversation, instead of stare at the phone, we would just think of the next subject and start talking again.
The whole exercise made me realize how much the smart phones steal from our every day lives and make us unable to concentrate on anything. I know they’re great inventions and make lots of tasks easier, but it’s no good when we allow a small device to take control over us.
So from now on… Sunday is a No Phone Sunday for me!
How about you? Are you addicted to your smart phone or do you control when and how to switch off? Tell me 🙂